It is well over 7 months since New year and was wondering about how we make big steps at NEW year and well months later may have even forgotten what they were . I stopped celebrating NEW year awhile back as realizing not going to get any better doom and gloom merchant that i am !!!!
but perhaps the answer instead of small changes make small setups saying i I will stop smoking turn it I will cut down bit by bit reckon it would be more successful
I remember a man helping me with ptsd and thoughts in head asking me rather obscure questions what would the future be like if you did not have the problems you had now and how would i know if i was better well i would just know because was not in a rage and the few times i am happy just want to hold on to it a bit longer !!!
People make resolutions that are to big stop smoking or drinking without doing the small steps like just cut it little by little , i am trying to sop these awful thoughts in my head round and round goes the rage til it subsides so much time I on them but their is tomorrow ( groan)
I wonder what my life would be without these thoughts and know I would not waste my time and just know i would be more at peace with myself and others yer out of the night that covers me black as the pit from pole to pole ( invictus) yer maybe never fully out but every minute without these thoughts is a tiny step not a stepping stone more like a pebble so should notice each little change and if not happening change the steps !!!.
In Tibet their is a word for regret but not for guilt so dont spend time being guilty unless hurt someone else than it is different we all have our own paths and shld not feel guilty doing own thing
I am the master of my fate I am the captain of my soul